I'm a freelance writer, in a poly relationship. I'm looking for secondary partners or friends with benefits relationships. I'm 5'11, about 180 lbs, with blond hair, green eyes and gold wireframe glasses. I'm a firm believer that the most important sexual organ is the brain. Engage my mind, and I'll engage yours. I'm not looking for monogamous relationships, not looking for The One, and not looking to be "The guy who gets you over the last jerk you dated". When dealing with friends with benefits, the friendship is more important than the benefits. Rather than say that you saw something you liked in my profile, please mention something specific. Or mention something that only a resident of Milwaukee would know, like the name and title of a county official. Sorry to make you wait, but I'm worth it. I've been told that I'm a good talker, easy to get along with, and have a good sense of humor. I don't go to bars, never liked the taste of alcohol or how it made me feel. Most of my exercise comes from walking. I can play the dominant in the bedroom, and give instructions/punishments/rewards, but I regard it as bedroom play and not a lifestyle choice. When it comes to sex, I find that one-on-one is the easiest to arrange; I've done M-M-F and F-F-M threesomes, and would do either again with the right people. I believe in the importance of a good fantasy life, and in being good, game and giving - if you like being tied up or blindfolded, I can accommodate. Ditto clamps, hairpulling and the use of sex toys.

My Ideal Person I am looking for a friend, first and foremost. I don't have sex with people that don't give me some sort of emotional tingle or sense of bonding with. I'm in a poly relationship, I'm not looking to end it. I'm willing to fuck people who are attached, but only if all parties involved give their informed consent.

My ideal partner is smart, funny, sex positive, enjoys giving and getting oral, anal play and cuddling. In particular, I'm looking for someone who is ALSO a geek. The glamorous life of a writer doesn't leave me with much day-to-day drama or conversations to mull over.

I understand the needs of a submissive, the pleasure in surrendering and knowing that someone else is making all the decisions and all you have to do is obey. That being said, I strongly prefer subs who are active about pleasing their partners rather than "Well, all I have to do is be pushed face down and ass up on the bed and squirm!"

On a last note: A woman is beautiful when she thinks she's beautiful, not because she fits in a given dress size, bra size, or body type. My most cherished relationships have been with women who were beautiful, but not conventionally pretty.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I have cybersex quite often.

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