[COLOR firebrick][SIZE 2][I][B]Please allow me to get the physical out of the way... I am 6'5" tall, African- American, with a deep voice. I am a SSBHM - which means I am very large. Sumo sized, freaky and Habit forming...I like kink and sexuality. The mind is the largest sex organ in the body, can you handle mine? You will find me to be open minded, exploratory, funny, giving, demanding, sensitive, emotionally intense, and expect the same in a partner. My play partners MUST be my friends first. I will need to meet you before we play in private... no exceptions! This is for protection and safety. I don't make promises that I cannot keep and I do NOT tolerate lies or jealousy in ANY form! It is all about getting together and having some fun! I am so open to casual vanilla events. But I am an extremely sexual, flirtatious and sensual being. I love good food, good music, pleasures and sensuality. I am NOT MONOGAMOUS, but my wife is always... ALWAYS at the top of any list and foremost in my thoughts. But for the most part, I am free to operate as if I am single. I love to read (and write) fiction, enjoy dynamic conversations, I love good food, music of ALL kinds and good company. I am a performer (singer, some public speaking) and while I don't mind being the center of attention, it is NOT a necessity. I am family and community oriented (both vanilla and kink). You will find me to be open minded, exploratory, funny, giving, demanding, sensitive, emotionally intense, and expect the same in a partner. (I LOVE intense emotions and forced moans... pleasure or pain... turn me on!) [B][COLOR indigo][SIZE 2] **WARNING: Any institutions using this site or any of its associated sites for studies or projects- You do NOT have my permission to use any of my profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. If you have or do, it will be considered a serious violation of my privacy and will be subject to legal ramifications.****[/SIZE][/COLOR][/B] I think that an education helps people connect, but I also believe in a well read self taught individual. I have been in the BDSM lifestyle for several years and am fluent in my needs, wants and desires. A strong believer in negotiation and communication. I love having a good time. I am a lover of knowledge, seeker of all things unknown to me and thrill to any per that can show, teach, grow with, and learn from me. Laughter is good for the heart and I intend to live a good long while, so I look for humor/joy in all things, be they pain or pleasure. I am completely comfortable in my own power and am willing to share it, lend it out, lay it down, or allow it complete control. I don't want to change anybody or take their power away from them. My interest is more in power exchange, not struggle. Whatever occurs, it happens on a mutual level and is negotiated. My preference is for a long term partner that doesn't desire marriage, but a great friend and adult play partner. It is my desire to know you and enjoy you and make sure that you enjoy our time together. [/B][/I][/SIZE][/COLOR]

My Ideal Person
Some things I look for in a good match:
1)Sexuality and sexual fun situations that does not NECESSARILY mean intercourse. group partners are always welcomed (and if you don't understand what this means then you are probably not the one for me.
2) Adults that have intelligence, open minds, hearts and spirits
3) Someone that can be here for me as I am there for them. This means regular contact through email, phone, IM and meets.

For now, I am NOT looking for:
1) A one night stand
2) A long term relationship that leads to marriage. Long term friendships are nearly as good -without all the issues that a marriage can bring.
3) Some way to indiscriminately cheat on my wife without her knowledge. She knows, because I tell her. She understands and will talk with you before we hook up for play.
4) Jealous individuals who cannot understand the lifestyle we choose to live. There is no room for jealousy. Exclusiveness is desired, but freedom is paramount. I might not agree with your choices, but I defend your right to make them.

Some other stuff you need to know:
FIRST - it is pronounced - LA-VO-CHAY... *

SECONDLY -I AM POLY. I have an extremely open heart and soul. I give of myself to all those that are a part of my life... and there is room for much more giving. I give and EXPECT it to be returned to me! I love hard, love deeply and respect your right to do and be YOU! I accept you as you are and only desire to help you be a better you! The flesh you see is what establishes (and somewhat limits) my place in this world but it does not define me, Get to know me and I promise you will be amazed!

I have an amazing wife that grounds me, keeps me safe and sane in the vanilla world - Amethystmba. Her love is amazing and she will join in socialization often. She knows everything and everyone I do for I keep NO secrets from her. You cannot usurp her role, BUT she is willing to share me with you and I promise there is enough to go around.

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Sadomasochism, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Light Bondage, Spanking, Mutual Masturbation, Food Play, Participating in Erotic Photography, Handcuffs/Shackles, Breast/Nipple Torture, Clamps, etc., Blindfolds, Fisting

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